The best way to go about it is to stop googling all the terms and start with looking for who’s around you.
First, build a contact list.
Start searching for the therapists that are near you and have fees that are within your budget.
Check out their website if they have one and instead of figuring out what type of therapy they offer, get a good feel for the kind of person they might be.
Because what all the jargon and different definitions on therapies and therapists out there really determine is the approach the therapist will take when working with you. Even though they may follow a certain type of therapy, the way they use it will be different to another therapist who may follow the same type.
So you can spend a lot of time googling, or in this way, you get straight to the source and you can get a better idea of exactly how that person works.
Now that you’ve browsed through which therapists you might want to work with, you'll have a list of who you’ll contact.
Second, figure out what to say and what to ask.
It can be really helpful to prepare what you want to say and ask about the people on your list.
Figuring out what to say
Here are some questions you can use to help you figure this out:
- What am I facing right now?
- When did this start?
- How would I describe how this (what I am facing) is affecting parts of my life?
- How might I find solutions to this problem? What have I tried? (What worked and didn't work? What worked for awhile what stopped working?)
Figuring out what to ask
Below are some questions that might be important for you to ask a potential therapist:
- How would they approach whatever you share with them?
- What is their background and perhaps, their motivation for working in this field?
- Are they accredited by a professional body?
- With what I am currently facing, how many sessions would I attend?
- In general, how many sessions do your clients attend? *
- How many sessions do you think it would take until I can figure out if the counselling sessions will make a difference? **
- What is their fee and is there a way to pay in installments (if necessary)?
*The truth is, the number of sessions you attend will vary. There is no golden number of sessions, after which, you would be "completely okay".
Why? Because your experience and your journey is completely unique and different to another person. Asking this question is really to figure out if a therapist might work prescriptively or more uniquely to your experiences.
**2-3 is really when the trust builds and comfort-ability grows. This gives you a good idea whether or not working with a particular therapist will be for you.
In this way, you gain more information about them and you sort of 'taste-test' their type of therapy.
Once you’re ready and thought about who might be best for you - give the potential therapist a call ready to talk about you and what you're wanting from the sessions.
If you are still unsure and have some questions or thoughts, you can check out our article on common thoughts and questions people have about therapy to support you with finding out what to do and encourage you to find the support you’re looking for.
Or you could get in touch with me with the form below and we'll arrange to chat over the phone. I'd love to be a part of getting you to that support you need. Even if it's with another therapist - we’re all here to help each other out!